Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Peas in a Pod

While my dad and I are working on the bedroom, my mom has been watching Dylan.  This is a practice run for when we move here--my mom will watch Dylan while I work (the #1 advantage to telecommuting!).

I love to observe them together and to hear their activities as part of my background.  This week, my mom has been harvesting peas; and it's a bumper crop this year.  They head down to the garden to harvest.  Dylan just likes to pick anything, but my mom is patient and lets him do his own thing.  Once the bucket is full, it's back to the house for shelling.  Dylan discovered the sweetness that is freshly picked peas, and even figured out how to wrestle the little buggers out of their pods. 

Thursday, July 22, 2010

DadaMama

Dylan speaks his own language.  He invents words--some are based on the sounds from an actual word (like "ga" for "sock"), and some are completely Dylanisms (like "chick-a-wawa", which is anything that hurts).  Most of the words he uses, I don't bother to correct, yet, but I use the right word. 

For example, "baba" is water, or any liquid.  Could be in a cup, the rain coming down, or filling up the pool.  If he points and says, "Baba!", I respond with something along the lines of, "Yes, that water is rain.  It's raining.  This water is called rain."  The one word we've kept is chickawawa; because it sounds so cool and because there really isn't a good replacement word in English except maybe "owie", which isn't nearly as cool as chickawawa. 
The really cool thing about using chickawawa is that I can use it to warn Dylan not to touch something.  Like today, I explained that he can pet Figaro, but petting Midnight will result in a chickawawa.  He won't go near Midnight, now. 

The set of words that Dylan has had the most trouble with are relationship words; mom, dad, grandpa, and grandma specifically.  When he finally mastered mom ("mama"), everyone he loved was "mama".  Next, he conquired grandpa ("dada").  Then, came "dahdee", which is reserved for his own papa.  But, during this development, neither of his granmothers were around.  So, when we came to visit Boise, and he once again found himself spending large amounts of time with my mom, he didn't know what to call her.  He tried on "mama", but that wasn't working because I would respond.  He tried on "dada", but that didn't work out for him, either.  Finally, he settled on "dadamama", signifying that grandma is a bit of mom and a bit of grandpa all rolled into one.
Here he is painting dadamama's fingernails.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

The Quiet Against the Loud

We love to scream and squeel and growl and laugh with our heads back and our mouths wide open! With Dylan, anything can turn into a giggle-fest at any moment. Maybe it's the way I shake my head to keep the mosquitoes away, or how Shasha jumps after the ball, or even just the way I tilt my head and give him "the eyes". It could strike at any time, and I have to be ready to repeat that action until I absolutely can't stand to do it one more time.

Today, we couldn't play in the pool because someone--a racoon, a cat, a dog, who knows?--popped it over night.  So, I set up the sprinklers and we ran through them until we were soaked clean through. 

In a world where even everyday motions can become a festival of joy, running through the sprinklers is a serious adrenaline rush!  And, not just for the boy, either.  Being around that kind of enthusiasm is completely contagious. 

But, I don't want to raise some kind of adrenaline junkie.  I want to raise a boy who can sit quietly and listen to the birds, can slow down to notice the ladybug on a leaf.  So, we also spend time observing the small...the quiet.  Today, it was goatsbeard.  When goatsbeard has gone to seed, it produces a puff-ball that is like a fantastic supersized dandilion.  Each little tuft is a good half-inch across and is woven like a spider-web net. 

At first, Dylan was scared of the feathery puffs (the strangest things set him on edge), but he was happy to watch me blowing the little parachutes out of my fingers; "more!".   Finally, he tried it himself, but couldn't get the hang of letting go with his fingers as he blew the gust of wind to set it in motion.  So, I held each one for him and we spent 10 minutes just blowing and waving goodbye.  Ah...the quiet moments are here, too!

Monday, July 19, 2010

Country Images

It's great to be back up the mountain with my parents.  Even inside, I can hear the birds chirping.  Away from the city, the stars are big and bright and they cover the night sky like a blanket.

This year is especially green.  The late winter followed by extra rain through June has left the world here green and lush.  Today, I sat out on the porch and looked out over the yard, sipping on a diet Pepsi while I participated in a conference call.  That world feels a million miles away. 


Helping Hands

I get all warm and fuzzy watching Dylan interract with my parents.  He is so eager to help in any way he can.  He helps Grandma pick strawberries, he helps Grandpa bring up lumber for the project.  He loves to be a part of it all.

This morning, my dad and I were tearing apart the dormer space, and Grandma was sitting with Dylan in the bedroom.  Dylan got out his little screwdriver and "fixed" the buffet that is sitting in the middle of the room while I pried nails out of the boards.  Every few minutes, he puckered up and ran towards me for a kiss.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Amicable?

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Main Entry: am·i·ca·ble


Pronunciation: \ˈa-mi-kə-bəl\

Function: adjective

: characterized by friendly goodwill : peaceable
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An amicable divorce - also known as uncontested.  The reality is that it's neither amicable nor uncontested in anything but a legal definition.  If it were, there would be no point in going through with it.  It's the contentious nature of our relationship that brought it to a new beginning, gave it a new label.

First we were friends, then lovers, then partners, then spouses.  Then we began the journey of unwinding that relationship...no longer partners...no longer friends...no longer lovers.  Just one step left and we're done.  The new label is "parents".  We will be co-parenting.

Just Kick It!

Adventure has taken on a whole new meaning.  It used to mean a ticket, a backpack, and messload of first-time experiences.  My first time experiences.  Now that I have this little creature who is working on becoming a bonefide person, first time experiences belong to Dylan.  My special right of passage is to be present in the awe and joy that he feels.

Tonight, Dylan learned to kick a ball.  He ran up and down the parking lot, skooting that ball in front of him like a soccer champ!  He's kicked a ball before, but usually it's not on purpose and resembles Charlie Chaplin trying to pick up his derby.  Great for a good chuckle on a slow day!  He was so proud of himself.  Grandpa and I cheered for him every time he made contact.